Tuesday, April 20, 2010


Owning dogs can be one of the most enjoyable and rewarding experiences for many people. Some couldn’t envision their life without a dog or two to share it with. Many feel that their life wouldn’t be the same without them. For most people, a dog is considered their pet or best friend. The dog sleeps in the bed with them. They go for rides in the car with them and some even take them on vacation. These people truly consider their dog a part of the family.

Then there are those “show dog” people. And yes, most of them are cut from a different cloth than the “average” person is. They live, breathe, walk and talk dogs! Yes, believe it or not, there is such a creature! They come from all different economic and social backgrounds. But regardless of their “walk in life” they all share the same common interest and connection and that is their love for the dog.

Breeding and showing dogs for the most part is considered a hobby. There are a few breeders that make their living or supplement their income by raising dogs. But whether or not it’s a hobby or an income for some, these people chose to become involved with dogs. It was their decision to do so. But how does this decision affect the rest of the family and especially the children?

Hopefully if you are married or have a partner in your life that the two of you enjoy owning dogs. You both work towards a common goal and both contribute to the upkeep of the animals in your care. Being with someone who does not share your interest in dogs can be very challenging to the relationship. If you have a tolerant partner who is not jealous and demanding of your time, then the relationship can work out fine. Raising animals is a full time job and being involved with someone who doesn’t understand this can cause many long term problems. I already wrote about the problems that can arise when two people don’t share the same interests in another article that you can find in the archives section of this blog. For this article, I wanted to address the children in the family.

When one thinks a child with a dog, a picture might come up in your mind of a boy with his dog fishing in the neighborhood pond. Or you might recall the old Lassie stories on television that many of us seen growing up as children ourselves. Dogs and children……is there not a better way to grow up? Most children that are raised with dogs usually love them. It teaches them to respect life in all its forms. It teaches them responsibility. It teaches them to give and receive love. I think it can be a beautiful experience for both the child and the dog as well. But what about when it isn’t a beautiful experience?

We must never lose sight of the fact that this is OUR hobby that we chose to become involved with. The children didn’t choose this hobby. The child will hopefully love what we do and want to participate in it, but that’s not always the case. As the children grow older they will have their own activities and hobbies that they may want to enjoy. When children are forced to do something, we all know how much they can rebel against it. When a parent makes the child take care of the animals and do all the work involved with their upkeep, the child can grow resentful towards the dogs. I know people that make their children feed, water, clean the dog’s runs, groom them, etc. Now this is fine if the children enjoy being involved with the upkeep and care of the animals. However, when the parent forces the child to do all the work everyday, well you can see why the child can become bitter. And yes, this happens. The child is being used to do all the work that the adult doesn’t want to do. I once knew of a child that is now an adult that wouldn’t step foot on a show ground anymore because she was dragged from one show to the next and forced to do all the work that her parents should have been doing.

On the other hand, if the child is raised with lots of love and attention and he looks at the dogs as part of his family, he too will love animals. Teaching and giving child chores is fine, but having him do the adults work because you don’t want to, is not. When a child is being used to take care of the animals and doing the work that the adult should be doing (because it is HIS hobby), then the child can grow bitter and when he reaches adulthood the relationship remains strained. I have seen it time and time again. Then the parent complains when the child is an adult that they are being very “testy” with them. He’s an adult now and can now let you know his displeasure with having to be forced to do something that should have been your responsibility in the first place. Like someone told me once…..”She wanted them; let her take care of them!” OUCH!

Children should be able to pursue their own interests and participate in after school activities with their friends. They should have time for themselves to develop into the fine young people that we hope that they will be. If loving and wanting dogs or animals in their life is something that they chose to do then it was their choice to do so.

Children and dogs should be a wonderful combination and in most cases it is. Many times the child wants to help with the care of the dog or dogs. This is fine and welcomed by most parents. This is because the parents honored their child’s own individuality and included him in the family’s activities with or without dogs. The wise parent knows that not every child will want to participate in the sport of dogs. This should be fine. Your child will love you for it. But when the child is made into a slave to do all the work taking care of our canine friends, then a happy household will not be realized at that address.

My rating: dogs and children: (4), children doing most of the work: (1)

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  1. I love this article. I do think the whole family needs to be involved for the welfare of the dogs involved. But yes children should be allowed to pursue their interests also. My husband loves the dogs but is not a huge fan of dog shows. He will go to one, once in a great while I think to humor me and also to watch our daughter show her PWC. Our 2 eldest daughters who are now 30 and 27 are quite different. Jamie the eldest has no interest in dog shows. She likes dogs but not to our extent. Kelly on the other hand is quite the handler and has done quite well in the ring finishing champions, not only or own but for others and also has done well in the past in the obedience ring until primarily deciding to compete only in conformation. Our youngest daughter Kaitlyn, started competing young at UKC shows. She is shown on our webstie handing one of our GSDs, UKC Ch. Willimar's Lil' Mis B Haven,OFA,TC,CGC, "Missy" in Sub Juniors. Kaitlyn now has her own Corgi and they are pretty much together all the time. Conected at the hips. We no longer Compete at UKC, primarily AKC and occ. CKC. We are expecting a nice litter of GSD babies in June. Kaitlyn will get her own GSD pup to train and handle. Ironically she will not be old enough to compete in juniors until May 12 of this year but has held her own in the PWC breed ring. Kaitlyn even help take care of the big dogs. Won't scoop poop yet.. but does everything else. My granddaughters have that love for dogs also. They are 2, 3, and 6 (almost 7). Emily the eldest is showing interest in handling. She is Kelly's daughter and will soon be learning the ropes.Thanks

  2. Hey Chris: it's wonderful that most of your children are involved in the hobby of showing dogs, and that all of them love dogs. As long as they like what they do and participate in it because they want to, it can be a very rewarding experience for all involved. Thanks for sharing and may your children be very successful inside and out of the ring!